Marital Journey
We at WINGS Retreats extend our sincere congratulations
and best wishes for your marriage. Holy matrimony is a sacred occasion in which you exchange consent to marriage before God, a minister, and the assembled congregation of family and friends. You will publicly vow your faith and your love for each other, as well as, your desire to be united for life.
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You soon discovered that the day you wedded wasn’t the most important as the quality of the rest of your life as you live out a godly marriage. WINGS wish you the best each day of your married life and that the love you have will be but a flicker compared to the love and holiness that will grow and mature in the years ahead until death do you part!
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We have one of two choices in marriage. We can run away when it gets hard, or we can choose to stay through the good times and the bad times over and over again. The WINGS group believes that to be able to develop intimacy with our partner and model the character of God, we must do the latter. Research indicates that it can take years to develop a cadence and proper heartbeat for your covenant relationship.
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This is because it takes time for a fancy term called neuroplasticity to happen, which is basically the idea that our brain adjusts to our experiences, choices, and actions. In the context of marriage, it takes time for our brain to shift away from identity as a single individual to a half of a couple – to go from “me” to “we.” It is through this process that a deep intimacy develops between a couple, as two become one. However, this takes time and perseverance through the many obstacles that are sure to come over the first decade of marriage.
Discover the Power of
a Stronger Marriage
Love in marriage can be deeper and more selfless than in any other relationship. It is this type of love that Jesus expects of His followers, and it is the virtue that couples need the most (agape). It involves spiritual, emotional, and physical closeness. In the Old Testament, we are taught, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh” (Genesis 2:24). Married couples are meant to be unified in every possible way. Sexual intimacy is a big part of this covenant. It is an expression of love that brings happiness and unity into a marriage. It is also the power by which married couples can “multiply and replenish the earth” (Genesis 1:28).
The Savior taught, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). As a spouse, you are willing to lay down your life and sacrifice personal desires for your closest friend—your husband or wife. The more you put your spouse first and keep your focus on the success of your covenant relationship, the stronger your marriage grows. There’s also the magic of being in separate rooms completely silent, but suddenly hearing an I love you brings a feeling of immense joy as you go about your necessary individual activities even after numerous years together. You will find that the words “I love you” never go stale despite what some might believe.
Great Marriages are a
Foretaste of Heaven
Couples experience Many successes and failures in different areas of life, which are closely related to how they have learned to view themselves and their relationships with others.
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As Christian Spouses, the words that God uses to describe us as individuals often feel distant, foreign, or unrealized.
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Chosen, Beloved, Redeemed, Holy, Blameless, Heirs, Priesthood, His Children, Adopted, Desired.
Making Marriage Work
Well, sorry to tell you but there is no one answer.
To know what makes them feel special, you have to be a student of your spouse.
1. Know the Condition of Your Spouse.
2. Discover the S.H.A.P.E. of Your Spouse.
3. Help Your Spouse Identify with You.
4. Make Your Home a Safe Place with a
Safe Process for problem-solving.
5. Provide Direction for your Family as the
Husband, Love your Wife and Wife
Respect your Husband.
6. Create Psychological Safety for
Reciprocal Correction.
7. Have a Heart for your Spouse
Romance in marriage is a lifestyle, not a technique.
It’s not confined to one day in February, but it’s a daily choice to be selfless and put your spouse first. It’s intentional—and it’s not expecting anything in return.
It is best to be a lifelong learner of your spouse.
What does this mean?
Following the seven principles, you can answer the following questions!
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What do they enjoy?
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What do they desire?
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Their dreams?
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How do we make them feel loved?
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It’s the little and big things.
Part of being a lifelong learner is discovery.
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Men, sitting and listening to your spouse, not interrupting or trying to fix everything, is romance. It shows your wife that you value her thoughts and emotions and genuinely care about what she has to say.
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Romance shows your spouse that you see them and desire to know them more deeply. Become a lifelong learner of your spouse. If you’ve been married for several years and feel like romance is missing, own it and prioritize it.